How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?
08.06.2025 08:03
By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.
By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.
By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.
What is your daily motivation and does it work?
By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”
By taking turns talking.
By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”
How did you know you weren't the narc?
By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.
By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.